今天讀到上師在印度報紙有篇文章，寫的真的很棒，很想跟大家分享，翻譯如下：
Swamiji說他常常被問類似下面的問題：問者說：小時候有時被其他小孩排擠，心中希望被愛，希望結束自己的寂寞。但是Swamiji告訴這些人，人生中一有些好的典範，有些人同樣曾經感覺被拒絕，寂寞和不被愛，但是後來反而變成被眾人所愛，生活的滿意度大大提高，到底他們是怎麼做到的？Swamiji舉出幾個基本但是有效的原則：
1 學習去給予愛，不要去要求
2 停止以自我為中心，不要去重複"我沒有人愛" "我被拒絕" "我很寂寞" 這樣只會不斷加深重複自己心理上這樣的感覺。人們也不喜歡接近這樣的你，因為害怕你會想從他們身上索求些什麼。
3不要害怕給予 信任你自己。問問自己，
上次你在宴會中裝滿食物在盤子上卻讓給別人是什麼時候?
上次你排隊拿食物卻把排隊的位置讓給別人是什麼時候?
上次你看到有人受凍把自己的圍巾批在他們肩膀上是什麼時候?
上次你看到有人感覺寂寞，你真誠的，及時的，真摯的給予愛的微笑是什麼時候?
上次你自願不求回報照顧生病孤獨的人是什麼時候?
去愛但不求回報就是被愛的秘密。
避免那個想要花數個小時把你自己的故事宣洩出來的慾望，如果你這樣做，你就失去了去愛的意義。只要想著無私的愛，不要害怕被拒絕。做就對了！
在你開始感覺你被愛以前，你會開始感覺滿足，純粹是因為你已經變的無私。同時，有一些特別的心輪冥想法可以幫助你，但必須要在有經驗的，真正的，無私的引導下進行。去吧！去改變你的生活！
I am often asked many variations of this question. I tell them that there are others who have set an example with their lives; that they had felt rejected, lonely, unloved, and are today the most widely loved individuals with tremendous satifaction in their lives. How did they do it?
Here are some basic but effective principles to lead your life:
1 Learn to give love, instead of asking for it
2For this, cease to be selfcentred, no longer cyring inside all the time that"I was rejected". "I am unloved""I am lonly". When you do this, you are reinforcing the same psychology in your self over and over again. People see you and move away because they are afraid about what you might demand from them.
3Have no fear in giving;trust in yourself.
Ask youself, when was the last time you had been at a potluck dinner of a party and filled a plate, and gave it to someone?
When was the last time you stood in line for food and volunteered your place in the line to another?
When was the last time you saw someone feeling cold and put your shawl around her shoulders?
When was the last time you saw someone feeling lonely and gave him a genuine, spontaneous and truly loving smile?
When was the last time you have known that someone is sick an alone and you have gone to take care of him, without expecting thanks.
Loving and not expecting anything in return is the secret of being loved. However, avoid clinging and save yourself from the temptation of wanting to pour out your own story for hours. If you do this, you lost it. Think of similar selfless ways of loving, without fear of rejection.
Just do it!
Even before you begin to feel that you are being loved, you will begin to feel a sense of satisfaction simply out of the fact that you have been selfless. Also, there are special heartcentre meditations that will help you, but you need to learn these from an experiences, genuine and selfless guide. Go ahead, change your life.
原文刊載於2013 4/7 Time of India 印度時報
